A Shy Person's Guide to Making Friends at School

Many of us struggle to talk to new people, but meeting new people doesn’t have to be scary. Have a look at some of our ideas to help you start building new friendships at school.

1. Use Conversation Starters to Get Chatting

One student asking a classmate if they can borrow a pen and the second student agrees

Check out our conversation starters for going back to school.

2. Spend Time with Your Friend’s Friends

A group of friends have a conversation about what they watched on TV the night before

Hanging out with friends of friends can be a great way to meet new people. It’s always less awkward if you have someone to introduce you and something to talk about.

3. Speak to Someone Who’s on Their Own

A student asks someone in the school canteen if they can sit next to them

Not only will you be helping someone else who might be in a similar situation to you but it usually feels easier to approach one person than a large group.

4. Look for Common Interests

Two students discuss their mutual appreciation for One Direction

Having something in common with someone won’t automatically make you best friends, but people tend to open up about things they’re passionate about.

5. Be Approachable

A student approaches two tables and wonders where to sit

It’s far easier to approach someone who looks like they want to talk to you. Barriers such as wearing earphones and negative body-language might put people off.

6. Ask Open Questions

Two scenarios in which two students discuss their summer, the first is cut short with a simple answer

Open questions are questions that can have a number of responses, whereas closed questions are questions which are limited to a few set answers. When chatting to people try to use open questions to encourage discussion and if you get asked a question try to respond in a way that suggests you’re happy to continue a conversation.

If you’re looking to build your confidence check out our advice from a confidence coach. Plus, take note from these celebs who didn’t let their shyness hold them back.

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