Physical Violence

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If you are living in a home where domestic abuse is happening then it can have a really big impact on you. It can make you feel scared, angry, confused, exhausted and lonely (and lots of other feelings).

Domestic abuse isn’t usually a one-off incident and it often gets worse over time. It can involve things like:

  • Physical abuse (pulling your hair, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or choking you)
  • Stopping you from sleeping
  • Controlling what you eat
  • Hurting you with objects or weapons (for example throwing the remote control at you or threatening you with scissors)
  • Forcing you to use drugs or alcohol
  • Harming your family or pets

Nobody should feel scared in their relationship. If you have been hurt or think you might be hurt if you don’t do what someone wants then that is abusive behaviour.

It can be very confusing as abusers often show a lot of love and kindness. If you would like to find out more about your own relationship and if it might be abusive you can find a quiz at the bottom of Women Aid's Domestic Abuse information page.

Getting help when you're scared...

Often people who live with someone who is scary can be too frightened to tell or ask for help in case something really bad happens. But everyone has the right to live in safety.

You can get in touch with people like Childline and the National Domestic Abuse Helpline who can support you and help you keep safe.

You can call Childline on 0800 1111 any day between 9am and midnight or you can chat to the team via webchat or email.

You can call Scotland's National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0800 027 1234 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can also email them via

If you are in immediate danger you should call 999, if you can.

If it's not safe to talk you can cough after dialling 999 and you will be put through to the operator.

If you are in danger, you will be asked to dial "55", otherwise the call will be terminated.

You haven't been hurt but one of your siblings or parents has

Maybe you haven't seen it happening, but know your sibling or parent has been hurt or abused by someone else. This can be really frightening. 

Take a look at the video below created by young people from Yello!, an expert group support by Scottish Women's Aid, about what this might look like in real life. 

You can still get help and support. The people at Childline can offer support in the links above.

There are also Women's Aid groups who offer support for young people. They are run by people who can understand what you are going through and help you feel better about what has happened. If you know your postcode you can find your nearest group.

If someone you know is in immediate danger you should call 999, if you can.

What does the law say?

The Domestic Abuse (Scotland) Act 2018 says it is an offence for someone to be violent, threatening or intimidating toward a partner or an ex-partner. This includes physical violence, as well as sexual violence and coercive control.

Where can you get help and support?

Find out where to get support.

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