How to Talk to Your Parents or Carers About Exam Results

Your parents or carers want the best for you. That being said, it can be really difficult if they put a lot of pressure on you to do well in school. This might mean you’re feeling nervous about how they might react to your exam results. Here’s some things that might help you when you tell them what grades you got.

Prepare in advance

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If you have some time before your results arrive by post, write down what you want to say. This might include things that prevented you from doing your best. Or you can let them know you really did try your best and want them to know you put all your effort into getting the grade you received. You can then practice saying it, or if you're more comfortable, you can give them a letter to read.

Come up with solutions

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It can be really useful to think of solutions to any problems you might have had when learning or studying so that your parents and carers know you’ve taken time to think about everything. It might be that you didn't do so well because you found the subject really difficult and you might need some extra tutoring. Maybe you didn’t on great with the teacher and would find it useful for you parents and carers to chat to the school about moving classes?

Talk about it

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Perhaps you found that your parents or carers were putting a lot of pressure on you and you found it hard to deal with. This could be an opportunity to discuss how you're all feeling and get it out in the open so you can all decide how to best support each other during exam time. Why not check out our guide on talking to your parents and carers about exams?

Or it could be that your mental health has been poor lately and you need some extra support. If that’s the case you could ask your parents or carers to come along to a GP appointment to discuss how you’ve been feeling and how it’s impacting you. Find out more about going to the doctors.

Show the options

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Your parents or carers might think that going to university is the only way to get a good job. But there are so many different paths you go down to get a job you love! Look into all the alternative options and chat to them about it. Whether you go on to do a Modern Apprenticeship, resit some exams, go into work or head off to college or university a little later on, there's no wrong path to your dream career!

Get support

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If you’re really nervous about how your parents or carers are going to react, you could tell a trusted adult to be there when you do tell them your results. This could be a teacher, a youth worker, your Scout/Guide leader or another trusted relative.

Don’t hide it

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You might just want to try and avoid tell your parents or carers your results. Or you might even be tempted to lie about them! This isn’t worth it. As much as it can seem like a good idea at the time, it’s much better to be honest and tell them as soon as possible. You don’t want to add more stress into your life by worrying about when you’re going to tell them, or when they might find out your actual results.

Check out all of our info, advice and handy hints to help you with your #ExamResults.