How to Feel Less Lonely

It can be easy to feel lonely and isolated - even when we're surrounded by other people. Get tips on how to feel more connected.

Why do we feel loneliness?

Loneliness comes when we feel we're on our own in the world. This could be because there's simply nobody else around. Often, it's because we feel there's nobody we can talk to or be with.

Sometimes, we can feel lonely even if there are people we can usually talk to because we think they won't understand what we're going through or what we've been through.

Feelings of loneliness can be made worse if we've recently experienced some kind of grief or loss, or if we're ill or injured.

How can I beat loneliness?

The quick-fix solution is to distract yourself - go for a walk, read a book, play a game, listen to some music, or surf around the internet.

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For the longer term, you could work on making friends. We know this can sometimes be pretty tricky but we've got some tips on how to get started.

If you need to talk about something, you can call Childline on 0800 1111.

What if nobody else will understand?

Thinking nobody else will ever understand you is a sign you're feeling down. While it might be true nobody else shares your exact experience, there are usually people who've been through similar situations. Try searching online for support groups.

Even if your story is so unusual nobody else could match it, a good listener will be able to understand how you feel from what you tell them. Part of the magic of talking about feelings and problems is that it helps get things clearer in our heads. This can also help with feelings of loneliness.

Are there other ways to feel less alone?

Some people find reading about others who've had similar experiences helps them feel less alone - search online and check your local library for books and articles.

Check out more info on gaining a sense of belonging to help you feel less lonely.