5 Ways to Avoid Being a 'Mean Girl' (or Guy!) as Told by Gretchen Weiners

Being a 'Mean Girl' or guy in high school is so not fetch, so here's how to make friends and avoid the pressure of joining those high school cliques.

High school can be confusing enough at times what with all of the new subjects and teachers. Make the experience easier on yourself and everyone else by being respectful and considerate to your classmates.

1. Don't exclude others
Gretchen Wieners, from the film Mean Girls, looks angry and says 'You can't sit with us!'

As we go through life we're not going to be best friends with absolutely everyone we meet, but be mindful of the fact that many students might not know anyone else, and will really appreciate a friendly face. Approaching people and including others, for example during your lunch, is a great way to get to know new people.

2. Trust works both ways
Gretchen Wieners, from the film Mean Girls says 'Maybe she feels weird around me because I'm the only one that knows about her nose job.'

The key to a solid friendship is being able to share things with each other without judgement and fear of it being spread around the school the next day. Sharing's caring - having someone to confide in means that you should also respect their privacy and not pass on anything they might have told you in confidence.

3. Don't get too big for your boots
Gretchen Wieners, from the film Mean Girls saying 'I'm sorry that people are jealous of me... but I can't help it that I'm popular.'

Popularity can be a fickle thing and modesty is an admirable trait. If people deem you to be a bit full of yourself, they'll find you difficult to approach. You might not mean to come across that way, just remember to listen to others and be mindful of their feelings.

4. Give advice but don't be too bossy
Gretchen Wieners, from the film Mean Girls saying 'I mean you wouldn't buy a skirt without asking your friends first if it looks good on you.'

Your friends are there to give advice and opinions, whether it's about the new top you've been checking out or your classmate crush. Equally, you may be expected to offer advice where necessary, but remember, it's okay to have different opinions from your friends sometimes and it's important that you respect your friends' opinions, but also avoid feeling peer pressured into doing anything you don't want to do.

5. ...and most importantly
Gretchen Wieners, from the film Mean Girls saying 'I'm such a good friend'.

Being a good friend is what it's all about and can involve a mixture of things. Being there for someone, being a good listener and having fun with your friends will make high school feel like it's flying by!

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